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Crossfitter. Dog Daddy. LGBTQ. Singaporean. 27 years old. Journaling some insights of my life while cherishing life in solitude. Writing is my catharsis.

Here’s my experience of adopting a rescue and the eventual change to purchasing a puppy.

Often times when we hear of adopting a dog, the likeliest possibilities are that the dog is (A) a mixed breed rescued stray dog or (B) an abandoned pure breed who was no longer cared for by its family and surrendered to the shelter. What that entails is these dogs put up for adoption would usually come with some form of baggage on them which takes time to overcome. Be it abandonment or fear of humans, it takes a person with some experience to care for these dogs.

Heed not, I’m not attempting to put a bad light on dog…

Something I’d highly recommend to every couple out there.

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They say you’ll always remember that first trip you spent with your partner.

As much as I’d love to travel, the pandemic has hindered all possible plans for going abroad and hence my boyfriend and I decided to take a 2D1N staycation in downtown Singapore for a short getaway. Just a few weeks before, we spontaneously started talking about spending time outside both our homes in a nice new environment where we could have quality time for one another. After coming back from it, I would say I’m hooked. …

Warm-hearted, bold and leaves a good taste in my mouth

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Last week while swiping through Tinder, I made a match with a guy. The first question that was asked of me was, “How come you don’t have a boyfriend”. Not before long, the conversation became an interrogation of my past.

“Oh your relationship ended? You guys should have just made it an open relationship to make it work.”

I swear when I read that statement, my inner demon almost erupted from my soul.

Who in the world has the right to decide what I did when I was in my past relationships. Having only just matched up with this guy…

We all face this problem at some point in our lives, and it can be so hard for anyone to understand.

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There are two kinds of loneliness in this world.

The first kind is the one where you are physically away from your close ones and you feel isolated because there is a lack of contact from people you care about.

The second kind of loneliness is more of an existential one. Friends and family are there loving you, but they somehow just don’t seem to understand how you feel — they can’t connect with you on a deeper level. No matter how they reach out, you still feel like you’re alone.

As much as other people care for you, they…

When the lack of communication was the means to an end

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Modern-day dating for gay men is puzzling.

We were never really taught how to properly date someone. Approaching a man to show interest, going out together and spending time with one another, these were not shown or taught to us unlike for our straight counterparts who had much more exposure from the media to guide them. And to top it off, apps like Grindr, Jack’d and Scruff makes finding a man as easy as picking a hot guy off a food menu, discounting the joy of dating to mere casual fun occurrences.

So when a chance comes along when I…

To all weightlifters out there, you should too

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Having experimented with all sorts of supplements and narrowing down to the select few that works for me, Creatine has become a crucial part of my supplement routine. I’ve been on creatine for almost a year now and I gotta admit that before starting out, I did have my doubts against its use due to my concerns of its potential effects.

Some articles online mentions the potential for dehydration from lack of water consumed or even problems with the kidney if taken with other kidney medications.

I still decided to continue with it, making sure that I drank shit tons…

But c’mon, don’t we all?

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I am a naturist. And I love being naked in places that allow me to be. “Free body culture” as the Germans call it, this love for nudity stems from the wonderful feeling of bringing oneself closer to nature. But don’t confuse that with being an exhibitionist — whose motivation is a desire to be seen and admired by others.

I guess we all innately have some level of shame for being naked in public, which I assume got into our heads from our innocent childhood upbringings. Growing up, being naked was seen as illegal and uncouth.

But a part…

Here’s some tips I’ve learnt along the way.

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After years of regular gym trainings, I have come to an understanding of my fitness routine and ways to keep myself motivated.

Through many rounds of trial and errors, successes and failures, I have learnt to reach this equilibrium where I manage to keep myself hyped with fitness while avoiding burning out at the gym.

Here are some simple tips from my years at the gym to motivate you further with your workouts.

1. Switch your phone to Do Not Disturb

We all bring our phones to the gym because the phone has become a part of us now. I use it to stream music on my earphones…

How you handle your youth will affect your mid-life prime

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We gay men go through some of the most tumultuous years in our 20s. From having to overcome the hurdle of coming out, to learning the ropes of sustaining a gay relationship from scratch, it is crucial during this period to find ourselves amid the turbulent phase of our youth.

We should make full use of this brand new journey (assuming that you have already come out) to start developing our lives and healthily nurture ourselves.

Learn to have healthy relationships

Building a relationship with someone based on emotional affection rather than solely physical attraction is something we gays need to work on. …

It’s time to change things up a little

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I have always hated the military buzzcut.

It reminded me of those dreadful days back when I was in the compulsory military 8 years ago. The rigid regimentation and resignation of my freedom just simply did not bode well for me.

That combined with the fact that Singaporeans generally have a repugnant mindset towards the buzzcut. Either you’re an army boy who just got conscripted, or you’re some kind of criminal who just came out of prison. As such, the bald / buzz cut just did not hold much attraction in my country.

Since then, I have experimented with all…

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